麻省理工招生办给大一新生的50个建议，被当作学习“教程”！

马上将有很多新大一学生急不可待地奔赴梦想的校园了，面对新的四年大学生活，麻省理工大学招生官给新生们支招，给出了50个建议，被很多留学生家长当作“教程”，逐条对照“叮嘱”即将奔赴学校的大一学子们。

亲爱的同学：

这将是我写给你们的最后一封信，新学期，我将要把重点放在新一年同学的身上了。我希望你们之间保持友谊，不要疏远(也记得来看看我们!)

在你们大学生活刚开始的时候，给你们一些忠告，大学四年，你们可能忽略这些很重要的细节。

1、大学四年时光，你很多朋友都会变，要坦然接受这个事实。

2、每星期给家里打几次电话，哪怕只有几分钟。

3、保持听歌的习惯，它们会替你保存记忆。每过一段时间，把曾经热爱的歌曲保存下来。十年后再听它们，你一定会想起曾经的美好时光。

4、别光顾着学习，喝点下午茶，享受午后的时光。

5、在状态最好的时候，调整一下你的作息。如果你在夜晚的创造力和工作效率是最强的，那就把握好这个时间。你或许只有在这个阶段精力如此旺盛。

6、如果你在交作业的前一晚才能灵感四射，妙笔生花，那就别听别人所说的“你应该早做准备”或者“你应该制定计划”等鬼话。每个人的思维习惯和学习方法都不一样。

7、大学期间，你得做一些有趣而疯狂的事情，即便你是个学霸!

8、跟你最喜欢的老师做朋友。不要妄自菲薄，他们也能从你身上学到东西。实际上，这也不正是你选他做老师的原因之一吗?

9、每天要至少有一个小时是属于你一个人的(排除睡觉)。

10、去约会。不要有太多负担，不是所有的约会都会变成恋情。

11、别跟你室友的前任约会。

12、如果你朋友的家长来了，就一起出去玩。你将会享受到免费的大餐。你还能让他们感觉到很酷——能跟年轻人玩到一起。

13、刚上大学的前几个月，给在大学之路上帮助过你的人写一封纸质的信。在信里，你可以描述当时的无助与彷徨，以及对他的感激之情，这对他是非常有意义的——这对你也同样有意义——当他十年后把信念给你听的时候。

14、接受同学和你不一样的地方。要时常问自己：“我能从他身上学到什么呢?”在同学身上学到的东西，比你在任何课堂上学到的都多。

15、夜猫子的做法是不可取的。

16、如果你跟另一半是异地恋——别听别人的劝告，异地恋同样可以长久。重要的是别让恋爱过多地干扰你的校园生活。如果你不想跟其他人约会，完全没有问题!只不过，这样会让你错过很多大学的精彩，毕竟你一天有三个小时在跟另一半煲电话粥。

17、如果跟好友发生感情危机，当面谈，不要用上网或邮件的方式。一个人的表情往往比语言表达更多东西。

18、勇于冒险。

19、别害怕(或激动)进公共浴室。这种感觉只会持续两秒钟。

20、星期三在一周的中间，所以，到了星期三的晚上，一周已经过了一半多啦!你应该为此表示庆祝。

21、接受失败。重要的不是失败，而是你重新启程了。

22、上一些跟专业无关的课，纯粹是为了兴趣。

23、规划将来很重要，但更重要的是活在当下。如果你只把大学当作了跳板，那你就不会从大学里学到太多东西。

24、如果你生活在每天都有大量事情发生的校园里，那么看电视不仅浪费你的时间，也是在浪费你父母的钱。如果你真想看，那就跟朋友一起看，这样你还可以跟自己说你是在“增加社交经验”。

25、别怕谈恋爱，享受这个过程。但是不要让它作为定义你大学生活的标准。

26、有时候你把读书的最好时光给浪费了。把你没来得及读的书列一张表，这样你毕业之后就可以开始读了。

27、当你遇到了一些“不可逾越”的困难时，就忘掉那些尴尬的瞬间吧，直接跳到后面光明的部分就好啦。

28、某些经历会让你瞬间变得强大起来，坦然面对，即便你很痛苦。

29、不管你的政治观念或宗教信仰是什么样的，你都要学会包容。你以前的想法在大学四年的时光里，随时都可能受到挑战。把自己封闭起来，你不可能学到东西。

30、如果你需要一份工作，就找你喜欢做的事情。不要因为它是工作，就可以糟糕透顶。

31、不要事事争先，有时候跟着别人也挺好的。

32、多拍照片。我最大的遗憾就是在大学没拍什么照片。

33、健康和安全比什么都重要。

34、要经常向别人寻求帮助。

35、在任何时候，你们班都有一半学习好的人一半学习差的人，你要习惯。

36、十年后，你们很多人都不如现在的状态好。所以趁还不晚，好好享受人生。

37、长远来看，你抓住的机会，比你在哪上大学强。学生时代有很多的机会，千万不要浪费了。

38、不要什么事情都去做。

39、有规划是好事。如果事情太急没办法规划，向朋友寻求帮助。

40、胡吃海喝吧!这是你瞎吃还没有罪恶感的最后机会了。

41、给自己一次当傻瓜的机会吧!多多益善。这会塑造你的性格。

42、一年多洗几次床单，这点一定要听我的。

43、如果你谈了恋爱，可朋友们没人愿意与你俩一起玩，你就得注意点儿了。你朋友比你看得清楚。

44、不要因为新朋友喜欢古怪的披萨糕点而大惊小怪。那些看上去糟糕的东西有时候真心好吃，要开阔眼界。

45、充分地了解你的大学，发现校园里的新鲜事。

46、人生苦短，不应该把时间放在自己不感兴趣的事业中。如果你不喜欢你的专业，就去换。

47、大部分纹身是洗不掉的。三思而后行。

48、不要取笑大一新生，你当年也是那样。

49、享受接下来四年的每分每秒。一眨眼功夫你就毕业了。

50、你唯一的责任就是学习。每天要记住自己有多幸运。

做真实的自己，好好成长，好好学习，勇敢去爱。欢迎来到你人生中最美好的年华。

PS：以上50条建议，大一新生家长们可以逐一对照“叮嘱”孩子了。

英文原版：

50 Things

As you begin your college experience, and I prepare for my 10-year college reunion, I thought I'd leave you with the things that, in retrospect, I think are important as you navigate the next four years. I hope that some of them are helpful.

Here goes...

Your friends will change a lot over the next four years. Let them.

Call someone you love back home a few times a week, even if just for a few minutes.

In college more than ever before, songs will attach themselves to memories. Every month or two, make a mix cd, mp3 folder, whatever - just make sure you keep copies of these songs. Ten years out, they'll be as effective as a journal in taking you back to your favorite moments.

Take naps in the middle of the afternoon with reckless abandon.

Adjust your schedule around when you are most productive and creative. If you're nocturnal and do your best work late at night, embrace that. It may be the only time in your life when you can.

If you write your best papers the night before they are due, don't let people tell you that you "should be more organized" or that you "should plan better." Different things work for different people. Personally, I worked best under pressure - so I always procrastinated... and always kicked ass (which annoyed my friends to no end). ;-) Use the freedom that comes with not having grades first semester to experiment and see what works best for you.

At least a few times in your college career, do something fun and irresponsible when you should be studying. The night before my freshman year psych final, my roommate somehow scored front row seats to the Indigo Girls at a venue 2 hours away. I didn't do so well on the final, but I haven't thought about psych since 1993. I've thought about the experience of going to that show (with the guy who is now my son's godfather) at least once a month ever since.

Become friends with your favorite professors. Recognize that they can learn from you too - in fact, that's part of the reason they chose to be professors.

Carve out an hour every single day to be alone. (Sleeping doesn't count.)

Go on dates. Don't feel like every date has to turn into a relationship.

Don't date someone your roommate has been in a relationship with.

When your friends' parents visit, include them. You'll get free food, etc., and you'll help them to feel like they're cool, hangin' with the hip college kids.

In the first month of college, send a hand-written letter to someone who made college possible for you and describe your adventures thus far. It will mean a lot to him/her now, and it will mean a lot to you in ten years when he/she shows it to you.

Embrace the differences between you and your classmates. Always be asking yourself, "what can I learn from this person?" More of your education will come from this than from any classroom.

All-nighters are entirely overrated.

For those of you who have come to college in a long-distance relationship with someone from high school: despite what many will tell you, it can work. The key is to not let your relationship interfere with your college experience. If you don't want to date anyone else, that's totally fine! What's not fine, however, is missing out on a lot of defining experiences because you're on the phone with your boyfriend/girlfriend for three hours every day.

Working things out between friends is best done in person, not over email. (IM does not count as "in person.") Often someone's facial expressions will tell you more than his/her words.

Take risks.

Don't be afraid of (or excited by) the co-ed bathrooms. The thrill is over in about 2 seconds.

Wednesday is the middle of the week; therefore on wednesday night the week is more than half over. You should celebrate accordingly. (It makes thursday and friday a lot more fun.)

Welcome failure into your lives. It's how we grow. What matters is not that you failed, but that you recovered.

Take some classes that have nothing to do with your major(s), purely for the fun of it.

It's important to think about the future, but it's more important to be present in the now. You won't get the most out of college if you think of it as a stepping stone.

When you're living on a college campus with 400 things going on every second of every day, watching TV is pretty much a waste of your time and a waste of your parents' money. If you're going to watch, watch with friends so at least you can call it a "valuable social experience."

Don't be afraid to fall in love. When it happens, don't take it for granted. Celebrate it, but don't let it define your college experience.

Much of the time you once had for pleasure reading is going to disappear. Keep a list of the books you would have read had you had the time, so that you can start reading them when you graduate.

Things that seem like the end of the world really do become funny with a little time and distance. Knowing this, forget the embarassment and skip to the good part.

Every once in awhile, there will come an especially powerful moment when you can actually feel that an experience has changed who you are. Embrace these, even if they are painful.

No matter what your political or religious beliefs, be open-minded. You're going to be challenged over the next four years in ways you can't imagine, across all fronts. You can't learn if you're closed off.

If you need to get a job, find something that you actually enjoy. Just because it's work doesn't mean it has to suck.

Don't always lead. It's good to follow sometimes.

Take a lot of pictures. One of my major regrets in life is that I didn't take more pictures in college. My excuse was the cost of film and processing. Digital cameras are cheap and you have plenty of hard drive space, so you have no excuse.

Your health and safety are more important than anything.

Ask for help. Often.

Half of you will be in the bottom half of your class at any given moment. Way more than half of you will be in the bottom half of your class at some point in the next four years. Get used to it.

In ten years very few of you will look as good as you do right now, so secretly revel in how hot you are before it's too late.

In the long run, where you go to college doesn't matter as much as what you do with the opportunities you're given there. The MIT name on your resume won't mean much if that's the only thing on your resume. As a student here, you will have access to a variety of unique opportunities that no one else will ever have - don't waste them.

On the flip side, don't try to do everything. Balance = well-being.

Make perspective a priority. If you're too close to something to have good perspective, rely on your friends to help you.

Eat badly sometimes. It's the last time in your life when you can do this without feeling guilty about it.

Make a complete ass of yourself at least once, preferably more. It builds character.

Wash your sheets more than once a year. Trust me on this one.

If you are in a relationship and none of your friends want to hang out with you and your significant other, pay attention. They usually know better than you do.

Don't be afraid of the weird pizza topping combinations that your new friend from across the country loves. Some of the truly awful ones actually taste pretty good. Expand your horizons.

Explore the campus thoroughly. Don't get caught.

Life is too short to stick with a course of study that you're no longer excited about. Switch, even if it complicates things.

Tattoos are permanent. Be very certain.

Don't make fun of prefrosh. That was you like 2 hours ago.

Enjoy every second of the next four years. It is impossible to describe how quickly they pass.

This is the only time in your lives when your only real responsibility is to learn. Try to remember how lucky you are every day.

Be yourself. Create. Inspire, and be inspired. Grow. Laugh. Learn. Love.

Welcome to some of the best years of your lives.

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